tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post4195726036423652073..comments2023-11-03T05:09:33.978-04:00Comments on Fragments of Grace: Integrating Loss . . .Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-8031611750276578412010-08-31T13:09:29.590-04:002010-08-31T13:09:29.590-04:00Robin ... not to pick nits, but I think you DO art...Robin ... not to pick nits, but I think you DO articulate that very well. And have over the course of your blogs.<br /><br />Articulating well means, to me, being willing to say real words about real feelings and to keep talking (and/or writing) until you stop.<br /><br />You have not stopped....and for that I"m grateful.<br /><br />You have, however, articulated the edges of pain and love and grief and sorrow and life and endurance and the dawning of another day. <br /><br />And for that I'm also very grateful.Cindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05147416487171740144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-45448996115711001102010-08-31T03:14:08.394-04:002010-08-31T03:14:08.394-04:00Amen, sister. That's what I believe, too - but...Amen, sister. That's what I believe, too - but I am not necessarily living my grief with others who believe the same thing as you and I - and that is part of the journey, for me, as well. So glad that we have found one another on this path.Gbergerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08895779471612397202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-81257344034037434062010-08-31T02:19:42.019-04:002010-08-31T02:19:42.019-04:00Jim Cotter is an Anglican priest who has written s...Jim Cotter is an Anglican priest who has written some very lovely liturgy , it has been one of my 'scaffolds' . His books are available via Amazon USA ( I checked !)<br />Thank you for your comment....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-42408278507704675432010-08-30T22:06:43.289-04:002010-08-30T22:06:43.289-04:00Thanks for commenting, Anon. I am so very sorry a...Thanks for commenting, Anon. I am so very sorry about your daughter. I know Mary Oliver well but not Jim Cotter at all, so thank you for that recommendation as well.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01898073277524952683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-76911730087143887382010-08-30T17:24:57.815-04:002010-08-30T17:24:57.815-04:00A sort of P.S ....
The poetry of mary Oliver parti...A sort of P.S ....<br />The poetry of mary Oliver particularly blackwater Woods has resonated deeply ' the fires and the black river of loss whose other side is salvation......'<br />The words of Jim Cotter (I'm from the UK) have at times articulated what I have struggled to say and helped 'frame ' some of my meandering thinkingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-18119282006522824932010-08-30T17:10:27.907-04:002010-08-30T17:10:27.907-04:00I read but never post until today....I think for m...I read but never post until today....I think for me it is about integrating and remembering well not 'letting go' 'getting over' which somehow diminishes the individual. My daughter died 16 years ago at the age of 11 months , the rawness of my grief has softened but the loss of her life is a double edged sword! the journey is one I suspect (and would not want) won't reach an end point but somehow there is a measure of comfort and a finding of a place to be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-29580279003167769422010-08-30T10:54:11.092-04:002010-08-30T10:54:11.092-04:00Yes, simply yes.Yes, simply yes.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11641264346663533706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-75944545197506916382010-08-30T08:58:22.273-04:002010-08-30T08:58:22.273-04:00"It's not the weight you carry
but how ..."It's not the weight you carry <br /><br />but how you carry it -- <br /><br />books, bricks, grief -- <br /><br />it's all in the way <br /><br />you embrace it, balance it, carry it <br /><br />when you cannot, and would not, <br /><br />put it down." <br /><br />From "Heavy" by Mary Oliver.<br />Thank you for giving that to me.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14519140951660677172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-5630838196088873012010-08-29T22:25:42.313-04:002010-08-29T22:25:42.313-04:00i have long thought that grief is not about repair...i have long thought that grief is not about repair, back to business as usual, but about incarnation...Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12617476463347663364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-29676409976579974562010-08-29T21:39:30.479-04:002010-08-29T21:39:30.479-04:00oh robin, yes. amen.oh robin, yes. amen.Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15667178624061122421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-5927639683643553942010-08-29T20:41:20.878-04:002010-08-29T20:41:20.878-04:00this, I think, is why we so often use words like &...this, I think, is why we so often use words like "journey" and even "recovery" in similar ways as, for instance, alcoholics. This isn't a perfect metaphor, obviously, and I'm not in any way suggesting that grief is an illness like alcoholism. I only mean that "recovering alcoholics" are that forever--it's a constant process of becoming and integrating different parts of who they are. I think grief is the same--we're recovering forever, constantly integrating all these different realities into the context in which we find ourselves.<br />At least, that's been a helpful metaphor for me...your mileage may vary. :-)Terihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10838436991138846332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-8169291275326403622010-08-29T20:30:53.223-04:002010-08-29T20:30:53.223-04:00Oh yeah, there's nothing -- except a couple of...Oh yeah, there's nothing -- except a couple of people -- I wouldn't trade for that one more day.Robinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01898073277524952683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3907440527168314545.post-83551832995743681982010-08-29T19:56:56.339-04:002010-08-29T19:56:56.339-04:00In my experiences with grief, it never occurred to...In my experiences with grief, it never occurred to me that I should <i>get over</i> my loss. I knew instinctively that it was a walk <i>through,</i> not <i>around,</i> something...after which I would emerge, changed...different from the person who began the journey. Different. Better or worse? Who knows? But armed with wisdom that I would joyfully trade for one more day with the person I grieve...Lisa :-]https://www.blogger.com/profile/02237889098638895390noreply@blogger.com