Here's the testimony I presented this morning to the Ohio Senate Education Committee in support of legislation that would mandate suicide prevention education for Ohio school teachers, counselors, and administrators. (I have some more pictures but they are on the phone of my brother, who came up to Columbus to surprise and support me, and I'm waiting . . . ). My small contribution to a large group effort:
Madam Chairwoman and Committee Members:
I want to thank you for this
opportunity to speak in support of House Bill 543, the Jason Flatt Act. I am a
Volunteer Field Advocate for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention,
which is working with the Jason Foundation to support this legislation in Ohio. My husband, son Matt, and I are residents of
Cleveland Heights in Cuyahoga County; I serve as the pastor of Nankin Federated
Church in Ashland County; and my daughter lives and works in Warren, in
Mahoning County. My father and my brother
and his family are residents of Warren County; my niece is a teacher in the
Little Miami School District in Warren County.
I share those “family facts” with you as an indication of how the
consequences of one suicide, that of my son Josh, reverberate across our
state.
I hope that the statistics presented
to you in connection with this proposed legislation are shocking to you. They are shocking to me, and I have now lived
with the reality of suicide as a devastating and life-altering experience for
over four years.
Why am I here today? I am here for both professional and personal
reasons.
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From
a professional standpoint, in the years before I was ordained to ministry, I
was an attorney, practicing family law, and an educator, in a Jewish day school
for six years, and on and off as an adjunct instructor at the college
level. Never in all of those years,
years in which I met all of my continuing education requirements in my fields,
some of it in child and adolescent development and psychology, did I receive or
know to seek training in suicide prevention.
As a family lawyer, I often served as a guardian ad litem, charged with representing the best interests of children in juvenile
and family court. As you can imagine, many
of the children and adolescents whom I served lived difficult and troubled
lives. But had one of them attempted or died of suicide, I would have been
dumbfounded, as I surely would have recognized no advance warning signs.
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As
an educator, I have worked primarily with middle and high school students and
young adults. Again: no training, no
knowledge regarding the signs of suicidal thoughts or plans. Today I know that treatable mental illness,
the leading cause of suicide, knows no boundaries: students across the spectrum
in terms of gifts, achievement, income brackets, and family background are
victims of what has become a mental health catastrophe.
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My
friend Jean Reinhold, a gifted enrichment educator with twenty-five years of
experience in the Shaker Heights school system in Cuyahoga County, tells me
that she has “seen/heard/known of
increasing numbers of students facing insurmountable stresses without coping
mechanisms [and that that situation], tied with any propensity toward mental
illness, is scary.” Indeed it is.
My
niece, Bethany Beebe, teaches language arts to eighth-graders. She wrote the following to me last week: “I
can't say that any other teacher I with whom have spoken about the issue of
suicide and prevention of such has any real idea of how to 'deal' with it. It
is something that is always on my mind when I see a student who is going
through a hard time. I know I may be more sensitive to it because of Josh, but
I could not imagine how I would feel if it were to happen to one of our
students. Having the tools to know how to identify the symptoms (for lack of a
better word) is crucial.”
We have tremendous expectations of our
teachers. We expect them to teach our
children how to write and how to understand algebra. We expect them to prepare our young people
for a fast-paced, multi-cultural, globalized society. We expect them to grade papers and manage
lunchrooms and recess. Can we also
expect them to be mental health gatekeepers?
We already do. Many of our young people see more of their
teachers and school coaches and advisors than they do of other adults in their
lives, including their parents. Young
people write papers and create art that reflect their deepest feelings. Young people often behave in ways that offer
clues to what they may be experiencing in the form of sadness, of frustration,
of drug and alcohol use, of relationship challenges, of family situations, and
of depression and other disorders and illnesses.
How critical it is that we offer their
educators and administrators and counselors the tools they need to respond
appropriately and effectively to what they, and often they alone, observe!
Now, a personal note: Our son, Josh
Williams, died in 2008, the day after his 24th birthday. At the time, we, his family and friends,
believed that there had been no warning signs. We were in a state of complete
shock for months, and often likened his death to his having been run down by a
train.
·
As
the years have passed, however, and we have learned more about Josh and more
about mental illness, it has become apparent that the signs were there. Many of them were extremely subtle, and many
would have remained unknown to us had we not found writings and journals of his
that indicate that he had suffered from depression for at least two years
before his death, and perhaps much longer.
·
You
may ask, “How could you not have known?”
You may want to believe that anyone who takes such a drastic measure to
relieve his suffering would surely have been broadcasting his feelings and his
intentions loud and clear – but in fact, people often conceal depression and
its associated thoughts, believing them to be signs of failure. Young people in particular, not wanting to
disappoint their parents, or feeling alone and misunderstood, may fail to reach
out to the people who would do anything to help them and to save their lives.
·
However,
people contemplating suicide do, in fact, frequently shed clues, leaving them
behind like faint and mysterious footprints in the paths of lives unnecessarily
destroyed. Clues that might be recognized by a teacher, a counselor, an
administrator, a coach, a parent – if any of us but understood what we were
seeing. Clues that might result in
action, if those who see or hear them are trained to respond with compassion,
knowledge, and courage.
I believe that the passage of the
Jason Flatt Act will offer school personnel an indispensable tool in saving students’
lives. Thank you for your time this
morning.
(((((You)))))
ReplyDeleteRobin, you are so brave and articulate. This brought tears to my eyes.
ReplyDeleteBrave. Clear. Loving. I hope they pass this bill.
ReplyDeletePowerful and compelling presentation from one brave woman. You done good, Robin!
ReplyDeleteVery brave. Very articulate.
ReplyDeleteIf I had a vote, I would vote "yes" after reading this. You said it beautifully, persuasively and powerfully.
ReplyDeleteI agree with everyone who has already commented, your presentation is very powerful.
ReplyDeleteWhat a different world it would be if mental health "check ups" and prevention were as routine as dental care. If people were not made to feel ashamed of mental illness and forced to hide their fears and concerns, so many lives could be saved and families kept intact.
Unfortunately, at this point, our society has little understanding or sympathy for those who suffer mental illness and lack of public awareness and funding is proof of the stigma.
Courage. Love. Josh.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful. Rereading it again this morning in light of an evening spent with my children and their friends as they begin the grieving process for the first of their peers to be lost to suicide (I'm certainly not naive enough to think it is the first in our community, just the first among their circle of daily contact) and hoping that it leads to more opportunities for preventive education not just training in what to do after the fact.
ReplyDeletePatty, I am so very sorry.
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