This is from an email I just sent to a large group of friends and colleagues:
"PS: If you are wanting to supply something, here are some great things to take over to the house, from my sad personal experience:
a cooler packed with ice and soft drinks (that was a JS inspiration, but J is in FL),
paper goods for a full house -- paper towels, toilet paper, napkins, paper plates, etc.,
juice boxes and animal cracker kinds of things -- there are little grandchildren around,
breakfast quiches or other breakfast food easy to heat up, coffee and juice,
certificates for take-out from local family restaurants."
The above are all items that would be of great help to people far too crazed with grief to remember that they need toilet paper, and who now have a dozen casseroles in the frig, but nothing for breakfast.